This is my whole thing. My whole thing is we're not here to conform. We're here to be unique beings. We're here to fulfill our unique potential. Now, at the same time, that doesn't say that we're not here to have children. It's about awareness; my whole thing is about being aware.

If you understand the forces that are at work, any mechanic you can take advantage of. No matter what it is, if you understand the mechanics of something, you can take advantage of it. If you understand the mechanics of Penta, you can take advantage of it. I take advantage of it in finding ways to be able to enjoy my family, and finding ways to be able to participate in my family in a way that's correct for me, but not in a way that's dominated by the Penta.

Most human beings have no idea that they're constantly being controlled by trans-auric forms that they have no conscious access to. And you can see it. It's like what happens when you're two people sitting in a restaurant, you're sitting at a table together and you're having that partnership connection to each other, and you're enjoying that and you're connecting with each other. You're both who you are. You both carry your uniqueness. And in that you have certain connections in the way in which you meet each other.

And then coming in the door is a friend who sees you at that table and immediately comes over to that table and sits down. And in that moment, everything changes. Now you all know this experience. It's one of those common things we all know about. The moment that third person sits down, you stop being individuals and you're immediately in a Penta. The conversation changes, what's important changes, what's going on changes, everything changes.

And certain aspects disappear. Things that were there, that were part of your conversation as an individual can no longer exist in that grouping. It's the same thing when you have four people, two couples that go out to dinner together. This is hilarious because the moment that they go out to dinner together, they become the Penta and the Penta controls everything. And afterwards, when you pull out of that, there's always this sense of, "What the hell was all that about?" Because the conversation, the way you connect to each other, what you actually do together, all of that is being controlled by the Penta configuration.

Excerpt from the new release You and Your Family

Ra Uru Hu was the Human Design System’s founder and messenger. Ra dedicated 25 years of his life to the development and teaching of the System around the world until he passed away in 2011.