Intermediate 3: Relationships, Sex, and Family

While relationships can be a rich source of joy and satisfaction, often they are also a source of frustration and struggle. Understanding what causes difficulty and conflict within a relationship is possible through a Human Design Connection Chart.

The combination or composite of two individual Human Design Charts results in a graph specifically focused on the inner workings of a relationship. It reveals the themes — such as attraction/repulsion, compromise, companionship, and dominance — that define the quality of a relationship.

In Aware Partnership, Ra Uru Hu introduces partnership analysis with a focus on

• the challenges the not-self mind presents for our relationships
• how to enter into relationships correctly, and
• approaches for maintaining healthy connections

Awareness of these themes leads to acceptance and the ability to surrender to a dynamic instead of getting caught up in the mental realm of blame and fault.

Type is one of the most influential aspects of the connection between two people. The inherent aura mechanics of each person in a partnership determine how each can relate to the other — or how the relationship may be distorted.

Join Ra in this informative lecture on the mechanics of relationship auras, and discover how themes of attraction, resonance, compromise, and companionship determine the nature of relationship bonds.

Celebrity charts are used to illustrate and synthesize the elements of partnership analysis in this transcript of a Partnership Analysis training that was taught by Ra Uru Hu in 2005.

Maintaining quality relationships is one of the most important aspects of our wellbeing. What interpersonal mechanisms actually makes this goal possible?

Human Design shows us that forty-six percent of humanity has a split definition in their design, which means they have two separate life-forces at work that need to be connected to bring a sense of wholeness. This makes them the most natural at both pursuing relationships, and teaching others about them.

Join Ra as he explores the mechanics and the positive potential of being a split definition. This one hour lecture, which includes an eBook transcript (here's a sample) and a screen recording of Ra's original classroom presentation, will help you understand how profound simple and broad split definitions can be once they get past the traps of the conditioning, and how they are here to help us relate to each other in the best possible way.

How do you express love, and what kind of love is right for you?

In Human Design we look at relationships from the perspective of connecting with others through Gates and Channels. Some connections are based in attraction, others in compromise, dominance or companionship. But are these connections a form of love?

There are themes within the BodyGraph that represent specific expressions of love. Some are based in transpersonal love, and others in personal love. Each plays a different role, and the various forms of connectivity affect the way love is experienced.

Join Ra in this profound journey exploring the Gates of Love and different types of connection themes, including relationship examples, and in taking a look at the future of relationships.

→ Here's a sample of the eBook

Note: Some of the recordings may be indistinct and include audience noise. Please listen to the sample by clicking on the product image, and remember that an ebook transcript of the entire course is included.

The Bodygraph has three distinct patterns that lay a foundation for our understanding of what we call “Love”. Each of these patterns operate through channels connecting the Root Center to the Solar Plexus, making our emotional system an integral part of intimacy.

The “Human Experiential Way” revolves around desire, the Support System is based on bargains and bonds, and Individuality, or “Stream of Emoting”, is rooted in mutation. But, how do they specifically affect the way we experience “love”?

Join Ra in this one hour discussion on how we’ve developed our current understanding of romantic love, and how the future of bonding will change with the coming cycle starting in 2027.

For many of us, relationships are a rich source of joy and satisfaction, and, often, also a source of frustration and struggle. Human Design shows each of us how we can be conditioned in our approach to relationships and love, and how that conditioning reinforces certain patterns that can be detrimental to our growth. What can our Design tell us about how we can be our unique selves and experience fulfilling love, sex and relationships?

This lecture offers a deeper understanding of how we are conditioned to view and experience relationships in a homogenized way, the pressures we experience, and what it means to remain uniquely oneself within a relationship. Ra will open your eyes to another way of experiencing love, sex, and relationships.

Many myths surround the topic of intimate relationships and sexual bonding, and what they are supposed to be. The truth is, in addition to how we are individually designed for intimacy, the way we are conditioned to think about sex, love, and monogamy is linked to the current global cycle.

For over 400 years, our collective understanding of the “correct way” to approach and maintain intimate relationships has been rooted in the tribal bonds brought about by the background frequency of the 40/37 Channel of Community.

In just a few years though, a new era will dawn and what we know to be true about the nature of relationships will be challenged.

In Sex and Love and the True Self, Ra explores how the upcoming global cycle will change the nature of our bonding and sexual relationships. This 1 hour lecture, which comes with an ebook transcript (here's a sample) and screen recording of Ra's class, prepares you for the individualistic age of the next global cycle, “The Cross of the Sleeping Phoenix”, highlighting the changes to expect on your path to having successful relationships.

We all have the potential for sexual fulfillment. However, most human beings don't enter into bonds correctly. With most of the population being made up of Generators, this leaves much of the world giving off the energy of frustration and unfulfilled sexual intimacy. With Projectors, Manifestors, and Reflectors being vulnerable to this powerful sacral energy, bitterness, anger and disappointment also occur due to the amplification of this sexual frustration.

In Type Sexual Signatures, Ra Uru Hu humorously shares how experiencing fulfillment and well-being in our sex lives occurs by honoring the nature of our Aura. This is essential for reaching the unique sexual potential that results from each Type’s approach to entering into physical intimacy.

Originally given at the 2008 Ibiza Event, this 1-hour 35-minute lecture (audio + illustrated ebook transcript—here's a sample) is for anyone interested in the basics of how Type relates to sexual strategies and relationships. Ra covers how we are inclined to engage in physical intimacy; how—through being aware of our Not-Self—we can each engage intimately with others correctly in ways that empower who we are.

The nature of sexuality varies greatly among the different Types. And the primary difference stems from the Sacral Center itself, which is the core and essence of what a Generator is.

Through response, the nine Gates in the Sacral Center carry specific themes of availability or inaccessibility to another, depending on what is defined and therefore fixed in a Generator’s Sacral Design. These in turn assist Generators with both understanding and interpreting uniquely specific signals of response in order to enter into sexual and other experiences that are correct for them.

Sex and the Generator, a one-hour audio lecture that includes a new illustrated ebook transcript (here's a sample), discusses the nuances of how this not only applies to intimacy, but also extends beyond sexuality into all life responses.

For most of us, sexuality holds the potential for connection, relationship and joy. But as Nine-Centered beings, our sexuality has also been a source of complex emotions and impulses that are not easily understood. When our relationships are strong and vibrant, it seems we have the skill to make the most of our experience as sexual beings. When we experience doubt, guilt, depression or disappointment in our relationships, it may sometimes seem that there are no reliable guidelines and no possibility of healthy, fulfilling sexuality and connection. As Ra puts it: there is something wrong … and we don’t quite know what it is.

If you have identified effective approaches to sexuality and relationship in your own life, be prepared to re-examine those approaches in light of the changes we will be experiencing in the next years. With our bodies designed to focus on mating and reproduction, we have been driven by our physical and emotional needs. That drive is changing as we near the end of an era. The coming mutation will cause us to experience a change to these fundamental aspects of our lives as we learn to express our sexual identity uniquely and with awareness.

Human Design offers effective approaches to human sexuality based on your Design. The Design of Human Sexuality is an 11-lesson/hour audio course with ebook transcript (here's a sample) and classroom video recordings. Ra Uru Hu presented this course over eleven weeks, which offers insight into human sexuality and maintaining satisfying relationships in accordance with our Design.

What will change for you when you enter into and sustain your relationships based on your unique Design and, as Ra puts it, allow your vehicle to take over in your life? Join Ra for this fascinating approach to human sexuality. 

Valentine’s Day is an occasion marked by traditions of showing affection and love through gift giving and special events. This tribal approach to supporting our bonds with others can be explained by the Sun’s transit and location within the Mandala Wheel on February 14th.

By looking at the Solar Plexus Gates in the Quarter of Initiation that are activated during the Ides of February, we are able to see how patterns of sexual intimacy have been established.

Join Ra in this special 1-hour audio lecture on Human Design’s view of Valentine’s Day. Learn how the Sun’s transit on February 14th correlates to the traditions of displaying love and affection through tribal support. In addition, discover how February of 2027 will mark a new era of love and bonding. Included with this audio lecture are Ra’s classroom annotations and highlights, recorded in video format, as well as a new illustrated eBook transript.

Raising children can be challenging in many ways. Knowing what to do and how to approach them based on their uniqueness takes awareness of specific techniques that parents are often not equipped with.

Human Design offers strategies that parents and caretakers can use to support children so they grow up in a way that is healthy for them. By using a few key areas of the BodyGraph as a guide, we can constructively deal with challenges that commonly arise and offer the right support for each child.

A Human Design Guide To Parenting is a 1 hour and 20-minute lecture in which Ra shares how you can give your child the gift of awareness through Type, Profile, Variable, and open Centers.

For many of us, learning to live according to our Design is eye-opening. So many things change and make sense when our approaches and choices are informed by our unique Design. As we recognize more and more of the Not-Self and its negative impacts, we learn how to mitigate its influence.

But at times, we can still experience a sense of regret that the insight our Design brings didn’t come to us earlier in life. What might have been different for us if we’d been raised according to our nature from an early age, and conditioning hadn’t curbed our potential?

Parents and others who nurture and support children carry the weight of that responsibility, and knowing your child’s Design can be an invaluable tool to avoid the most common mistakes we make when raising children. How can we support them without our support conveying conditioning? What do the mechanics of Design tell us about the nurturance, environment and energy that is most beneficial to a child?

This one-hour audio lecture with new eBook transcript (here's a sample) gives practical guidance based on your awareness of your child’s Type, open Centers, and Variable configurations. By looking at the charts of our children, we can understand specific aspects of who they are, such as how they are meant to use their energy, take in food, and learn. This lecture provides simple, effective ways to nurture a child’s strengths, talents, and potential.

Learn the most essential aspects of your child’s BodyGraph, and discover strategies for nurturing your child without conditioning.

There are many perspectives on how children should be raised. How do we know which ones are best?

Everything from what to eat, how to create bedtime habits, and the best methods to educate are often taught in ways that homogenize children instead of helping them embrace their own Inner Authority.

Nurturing a Unique Being is a practical 2-hour audio course that teaches you the most important elements in your child’s design so you can raise them uniquely. You will learn about Primary Health System nutritional strategies, Design Variables, and Type guidelines for using energy correctly.

Within a partnership, two individuals engage with each other according to the mechanics of their unique Designs. But as soon as a child is introduced to the partnership a Penta is formed—an auric entity that functions according to very different mechanics.

Without awareness of how each family member contributes to a Penta, we can easily lose our individual identity and become subject to dynamics beyond our control. The Penta dynamic operates not only within families but any small grouping of 3 to 5 people; we all have experienced the distinct change when a third person joins a conversation…

Another trans-auric entity is the Wa, which forms when 9 to 16 people come together. We all become part of a Wa when we enter a public place or attend a large social gathering, and the Wa dominates most work environments. It is impacted by outside forces and without awareness of these forces we are left to the whims of the Program, a programming environment described by Ra as a formula without intent.

So how can we maintain our individual self within the powerful energy field of these trans-auric forms? In You and Your Family, Ra introduces us to the mechanics of Penta and Wa, and how to be aware of and deal with the impact of these powerful forces.

Families are our first and deepest form of conditioning. When we come into the world, we are usually immersed in a group consisting of our parents, siblings, or extended family members. So while Human Design offers insight into our individual design, it also gives us the ability to see how we are influenced by small group dynamics created within our families.

By learning how family auras can be both functional and dysfunctional, we are able to participate in group scenarios with more awareness and acceptance of our own place in the group dynamic, based on small group (Penta) mechanics.

Join Ra in this one hour lecture on how we are conditioned most by family, and how family Auras are dominated by Penta dynamics.

Penta dynamics have a significant impact on our lives, but their influence often goes unrecognized. The Penta is a trans-auric construct built from the energy field of three or more people; and though the Penta is invisible, we are controlled and influenced by this auric form. One of the most familiar Penta experiences is within the family, where these dynamics affect how we interact with family members.

Some people are designed to be in and work in Pentas, while others do not work well in Pentas. Are you a Penta person? How can we work with Penta energy? This lecture will guide you in your exploration of the Penta.

The Wa is a trans-auric form created from the auric energy of nine or more people. The Wa has a strong influence on each of us, as its energy impacts and homogenizes us, pulling us away from our Authority and our individuality. These large group energies are often found in our work environment, or any large social gathering we are part of.

With awareness, some people can be potential assets within these Wa environments, while others are not designed to be in and work within a Wa. This lecture explains the Design of Wa and shows whether you have a place within a Wa. We cannot control the Wa, but we can recognize it and learn how to live within its influence.

This 5-lecture series explores the true life story of a woman named Eva, as seen through various levels and mechanics of Human Design—individually, in partnership, and in the context of her family Penta. By closely examining Eva’s Design and key aspects of her life, Ra illustrates the deeper levels of conditioning we all have and how the not-self mind is drawn to identify with them. This course reveals how we can work with these dynamics once we are aware of them, and ultimately free ourselves.

Beginning with Eva’s family dynamics involving her mother, father, and brother, Ra continues through her relationships with her husband and eventually her lover, culminating in her death. This comprehensive examination allows us to follow her whole life story, from birth until her final moments.

Through the example of Eva’s life, this course teaches us the power of genetic conditioning, family environments, and relational dynamics that, without awareness, lead us to live deeply conditioned and homogenized lives, stuck in patterns ingrained since early childhood.

Discover how the mechanics of Human Design can free us from these influential relational and environmental forces in this 5-hour course, which includes both audio and a new illustrated ebook transcript (here's a sample).

In 2010, Ra and 15 students gathered in Ibiza for the 5-day Wa Immersion program, an exploration of both fundamental and advanced aspects of the BodyGraph. The course focused on a specific theme in the morning, and held a workshop analyzing the topic in students’ BodyGraphs in the afternoon.

Ra dedicated Day 5, the final day of the course, to Passenger Consciousness and Communion. This 3-hour audio examines the dynamics of Penta, a construct formed when three to five people come together and form a group. Why do we act and feel one way when we’re alone or with one other person, but act and feel very differently when we’re with a group? Ra explains that you are different when you are in a group — you’re not in charge of how you think or feel.